Say Yes To Change - The 25 Keys

A Quick Guide To The 25 Keys

1. Begin In The Beginning
2. Say "Yes"
3. Build A Strong Base
4. Eliminate Personal History
5. Celebrate Excellence!
6. Eliminate Personal Censorship
7. Start Connecting, Understanding & Accepting!
8. Honor Wants
9. Act With Detachment
10. Pay Attention to Self-Talk
11. Eliminate Limiting Beliefs
12. Find Balance
13. Avoid Generalizations, Deletions And Distortions!
14. Explore Abandon
15. Explore Your Fe/Maleness
16. Become An Instrument of Pleasure
17. Violate The Appropriate
18. Eliminate Diminutives
19. Worship Spontaneity
20. Practice Confidentiality
21. Drop Expectations
22. Celebrate The Silence
23. Take (Almost) Nothing Seriously
24. Become An Instrument of Grace
25. Worship The Divine

Key 1: Begin In The Beginning!
As obvious as it seems, most of us do not begin in the beginning.
We jump off or into our preoccupation with task often without knowing where we are going, how we are going to get there, who we are going with or even why we want to make the journey. So take time in the beginning to create greater harmony and balance and ensure the success of each of your ventures. Do the essentials first.

Key 2: Say, "YES".
Learning to say "YES" instead of "NO" to change and to life could well be the single most important step any of us ever take. Saying "YES" as often as we can to as many constructive, uplifting, creative and adventurous actions, experiences and people as possible is a key to success.. Say "YES" to our dreams, to those unique and special talents and abilities and to the things we have always wanted to do.

Key 3: Establish A Solid Foundation.
Building as healthy a body, mind and emotions as possible are essential steps in creating a primary foundation for a successful life. How we achieve them is up to each one us, but one thing is clear; a decent exercise program, the right kind of diet, time spent increasing our self-awareness and our emotional intelligence and, above all, paying attention to our best source of wisdom through reflection, prayer and meditation are all essentials.

Key 4: Eliminate Personal History
Memories and those old stories about the past - about who we were and what we did with whom and when - are like large trunks or heavy satchels we lug around with us from moment to moment. Not only do they encumber our movements, they actually prevent us from having the freedom and ease to focus on where we are (our present) and on where we want to go (our future). Pack all those memories and old stories away for rainy afternoons with hot chocolate or tea. Give yourself the gift of living each moment new and unencumbered.

Key 5: Celebrate Excellence
There is no substitute for excellence. It is a word that describes a way of living life - a process, not a goal. This process allows us to shape our thoughts, words and actions in a manner that elevates the way we play the game of life. As a standard, excellence will keep us from cheating ourselves or our process, of settling for mediocrity or inferior quality or performance. Applying excellence as our standard will assist us to do all things to the best of our abilities and to discover new levels of self-confidence and joy.

Key 6: Eliminate Personal Censorship.
When we give our inner censor a rest, we begin to live life more truthfully and passionately. This key advises each of us to begin saying what we mean, what we feel and what we believe. It cautions us not to divide our world into a private inner world in which we are honest, courageous and bold and an outer world in which we are compliant, evasive and timid.

Key 7: Start Connecting, Understanding & Accepting
When we protect and defend against something we empower the thing, person or belief against which we are defending. So our challenge and our opportunity in using this key is to own our thoughts, words and actions to make connections, to understand and accept differences. Where we do find that we do not like something that is happening or one of our thoughts, words or actions, we can change it. Accepting full responsibility for our lives and choosing connection over separation, understanding over defense is a powerful and major shift.

Key 8: Honor Wants
So much of our life energy and passion is tied up inside of us in unnamed and unexpressed wants. This key advises us to take the time and have the courage to name our wants, evaluate which are constructive and positive enough to be worth expressing and experiencing and then doing precisely that. This key suggests that honoring our wants may be one of the real doorways to the joy and the privilege of participating fully in our lives.

Key 9: Re-Act To Nothing
Attachments limit choice. It is a simple as that. We can be passionately committed to excellence and work diligently and effectively to achieve the results we want without being attached to a specific outcome. This key advises us that attachment limits not only our choice, but the possible scope of our success. Learning to be neutral, in balance, and non-reactive puts us on the fast track to achieving the highest and best results that are possible.

Key 10: Pay Attention To Self Talk
It is said that if we talked to others the way we talk to ourselves we would have no friends. This key advises us that learning to pay attention to the things we think and say to ourselves about ourselves, others and the world around us can empower us and engage us in life like no other. Our self talk is literally the way we either reinforce or alter the positive and the negative beliefs, opinions and judgments we hold in our minds.

Key 11: Eliminate Limiting Beliefs
Our thoughts are killing us. At a rate of over 1200 words a minute and 50,000 separate thoughts per day, our minds repeat and create beliefs, opinions and judgments - many of which are uncensored, unfiltered and negative. This key advises us to learn to identify our limited beliefs and to replace them with positive, supportive, powerful ones that contribute meaningful to our ability to say Yes to change and to life.

Key 12: Find Balance.
Of all of the tools needed to live life joyfully and fully, balance is, indeed, one of the most important. This key advises us to be sure to balance our spiritual, emotional, mental, physical and financial needs. Each should be given its due. Each is important in providing us with the energy, the focus and the ability to deal enthusiastically and constructively with the many changes in life that are unavoidable, to minimize the obstacle they contain and take full advantage of the opportunities they present.

Key 13: Avoid Generalizations, Deletions & Distortions
To live life fully we must live life honestly. If we communicate to ourselves and to others in broad, nonspecific terms that leave things out, and exaggerate or deflate other we will obscure the truth of who we are and what we want. This key advises us to avoid those forms of communication - generalizations, deletions and distortions - that obstruct our ability to lead empowered, effective and truly productive lives.

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